Random Friday Thoughts: Of Fishbones & 1212

hikkii

Jul 29

Making use of my meeting room credits to take a meeting (usual month end branch business) + also multi-task with some blogging, since I have yet to write anything this month (stuck with 1 draft).

Not sure if I have written about this here before - over the years, with more experience and as part of my personal healing and growth journey, I have become a strong believer in addressing root causes (to resolve issues/problems).

So this diagram that I came across in IG the other day was such a god-send!

This is such a breath of fresh air + clarity. Especially when on a personal level, I do have many elephants in the room to address.

It is one thing to tell someone straight in the face that he/she needs to fix him/herself versus trying to change others. Nothing wrong ...... in the sense that we have our strengths & weaknesses, and we are always a 'work-in-progress'. The problem I have with this type of generic advice though is that it can be rather judgemental/hurtful without taking into account the complexity & naunces of the actual problem/situation. As one of my trainers frequently say, there is always a 'WHY' behind every statement/action versus being hasty to judge.

So my point here is really there is only so much fixing one can do to him/herself. I think it only works when it is a clear cut case when I am causing 90% of the problem/issue. But NOT when it is a Fishbone concept. After all, it takes two and/or multiple hands to clap to create a situation to what it is.

And that brings me to another point - how can that one thing I did be the main cause of another person's own personal projections and behaviour? For me to react in the way I did (good/not so good/negative) the other person must have done something to trigger it to begin with. My reaction is definitely part of the problem, but I also find it very unreasonable that I'm deemed to be 99% at fault for this while the other party has no fault/no co-responsibility** for his/her own part in the whole situation.

** This is the part that really pisses me off, tbh.

Pretty tough to stomach such an unfair situation but at this point now, there is not much point to fight it when there are much more important things that I need to focus on. So ..... case over!

The other part for today's blog is on angel numbers once again, haha!

I have been seeing 1212 repeatedly since last Sunday. And today is probably the 5th time in a row!

And so now, time for a deep dive into 1212

From here:

Seeing angel number 1212 is a sign that you should stay positive and follow the life path you're on to achieve the purpose you're aiming for. Also, number 1212 is seen as a spiritual awakening in life and a sign that you're going to have success in the love field.

When it comes to number 1212 symbolism is telling us that we need to be careful about our thoughts. Everything in life is starting with thoughts, positive will bring you good things and negative will fill you with dissatisfaction.

Choose your thoughts like you chose everything else, don't let them manage you, instead you create your inner world.

It's important to have a positive mindset. Think positive and positive events will occur in your life. You need to be confident about your thoughts. Show a strong attitude and trust your feelings.

I guess the significance of it is a reminder to myself to keep my negative thoughts/feelings/beliefs that are being triggered in check and focus on myself and what I need to do / can do to bring about positivity and benefit people/communities at large